Thomas "Tom" Charles Irwin, Sr., passed away peacefully on July 29, 2026, after a courageous battle with cancer. Born on April 12, 1937, Tom lived a life centered on serving his Lord, his country, and his family. While his absence is deeply felt, his family and friends find comfort in knowing that his pain and suffering have ended and that he is at peace in the presence of his Lord and Savior.

Tom shared 67 wonderful years of marriage with the love of his life, Paula Howard Irwin. Together, they built a beautiful family, a loving home, and a lifetime of cherished memories.

Tom was born in Napanoch, New York, to Clarence and Mabel VanWagner Irwin. He grew up alongside his siblings, Joan, Janet, Cappy, Barbie, and Kenny. He enjoyed countless adventures in Ulster County, experiences that helped shape the hardworking and resilient man he would become.

Throughout his life, Tom was known as a man of deep faith, unwavering integrity, and strength. A natural leader, innovator, and problem solver, he possessed an incredible work ethic that began in his youth. His determination and craftsmanship were evident in everything he did. He built his family's home, laying each cinder block with care and dedication. Gifted with his hands, Tom built furniture for his children and grandchildren, carved wooden birds, birdhouses, and horses—especially treasured by his children—and created countless other keepsakes that will be cherished for generations.

Tom's love for the outdoors was equally remarkable. He was an avid hunter and fisherman, a dedicated Scoutmaster, a farmer, and a gardener. He often joked that he loved "playing in the dirt," finding joy in working the land, raising animals, and caring for God's creation.

Tom's career reflected the same determination and commitment that defined every aspect of his life. Early in his career, he worked in the family's propane business during the day while serving as a prison guard at night. Later, Tom and Paula moved to Virginia, North Carolina, and then California, where he began a distinguished civil service career at the Navy Surface Warfare Center in Port Hueneme. Never one to stop learning, Tom became an Engineering Technician, further demonstrating his dedication to personal and professional growth. Following his retirement, he and Paula settled back in North Carolina, where Tom continued serving his community by working for Perquimans County.

Tom also became a Grand Knight of Council 4517 at St. Mary's and St. Andrew's Catholic Church in Ellenville, New York. After retiring, he became a member of St. George's Orthodox Church in Edenton, North Carolina, where a memorial service will be held at a later date. Whether serving in his church, his community, or simply offering a helping hand to a neighbor, Tom lived out his faith each day with humility, generosity, and compassion.

Above all, Tom was a devoted husband. He was an incredible father and mentor to his three children: Deborah Irwin Cinque; Thomas Charles Irwin, Jr. and his wife, Gail; and Jeanne Irwin Phelps and her husband, Michael. He was preceded in death by his son-in-law, Gary Cinque, and his beloved grandson, Brandon Thomas Cinque. He took great pride in his nine grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren, each of whom held a special place in his heart.

Tom will be remembered not only for his accomplishments but also for his unmistakable sense of humor. His legendary jokes, colorful sayings, and timeless idioms brought laughter to those around him. More importantly, he will be remembered for his steadfast faith, enduring strength, genuine kindness, and unwavering love for his family.

A memorial service will be held at 2:00 p.m. on Tuesday, August 4, at Miller & Van Essendelft Funeral Home, located at 1125 Harvey Point Road, Commerce Center, Hertford, NC 27944. A private graveside service will be held in Napanoch, New York, at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Autism Society at autismsociety.org/donate.

Though he will be deeply missed, Tom's legacy of faith, service, hard work, and unconditional love will continue to inspire all who were blessed to know him.

Miller & Van Essendelft Funeral Home, 1125 Harvey Point Road, Hertford, NC is assisting the Irwin family with arrangements and online condolences may be made by visiting www.millerfhc.com